HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT ONE

 As children of God, there are things which are expected of us; we are not expected to date like every other person out there. As Christians, we are expected to be Christ like even in the manner we date. As a result, it is required of us to keep our body which is the temple of the Lord, Holy. It is expected that we don’t defile our body before marriage by having a premarital sex.

 Now, the truth is; not every person is willing or will be willing to have a no-sex relationship. But as Christians, we are expected to keep our body Holy, far from things which displeases God.

Therefore, knowing the right partner is the heart desire of every individual who has come of age to be married. The question now is: how can one know the right person? What are the qualities of the right person? How can we know the right person in the midst of others...?

HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT ONE

1.   Sex won't be an issue between you two: A person who truly loves you, and wants to marry you will not be bothered about having a premarital sex with you, and even when the urge comes, and you deny him/her, the individual won’t quite the relationship because he/she is been denied sex. The individual’s focus would be to quickly get married to you, and have you by his/her side.

2.   He/she will be concern about you: Another way to know the right person is how the person responds to an issue which concerns you. A person who truly loves you, and desires to settle down with you, will certainly be concern about you. He/she may not have all the money in this world, but would look for means of assisting you if need requires.

3.    He/she should have a source of livelihood: I really don't understand the misty behind marrying a person who has no source of livelihood.

1 Timothy 5:8

If anyone doesn't take care of his own relatives, especially his immediate family, he has denied the Christian faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

 It is written that a man who cannot provide for members of his household is worse than an infidel. It doesn't matter how little his income is, the man you wish to marry should have a source of livelihood, and the woman should not be idle either.

4.   She/he should be presentable (Marry your kind): There is no point marrying in faith in this regard. What I mean by this is: If you're a graduate/Master degree holder, there is no point marrying a person who is a high school dropout. Except the person is a reader, the level of your reasoning will certainly not be at the same level. Marry your kind. Marry someone who you can be proud of, not a person who you will be ashamed of. 

5.   He/she should be a non-Drinker/Smoker: As Christians, we are expected to be examples of Christ here on earth. Hence, we are not expected to drink or smoke. As a result we cannot marry someone who drinks/smokes, so he/she won’t make us deviate from our faith.

6.    He/she should be willing to meet your family: Lot of people would tell their partners "I love you", but when asked to visit their partner's parents, they would refuse. A person, who refuses to meet your parents, is not interested in settling down with you; although some men may not want to meet your parents if they are not financially capable of accepting certain responsibilities. But most men won't want to visit your parents even when they have all the moneys in this world; just because they are not interested in settling down with you.

7.    Age should not be a problem: A person who truly loves you, and wants to settle down with you will not be bothered about the age gap between you.

8.   He/she should be faithful to you: A friend ones told me that an individual who being in a relationship is unfaithful to his/her partner is not satisfied with that person, and might leave the person once he/she has found someone else. So, a person who truly loves you should be faithful to you.

9.   He/she should have the fear of the Lord: The person you intend to spend the rest of your life with should be someone who truly fears God. That is the only way you can enjoy ceaseless peace in your marriage.

10.               He/she should love you:

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,

As a woman, the man you intend to marry should love you, and respect you. And as a man the woman you wish to spend the rest of your life with should be willing to submit herself to you; that is bring her will under yours.

     Ephesians 5:22-23

 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

When there is love from the man, and submission from the woman, peace is bound to remain in that marriage.

11.               He should propose to you at the end: For the ladies, a gentle man who truly loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you should be able to propose to you. If he does not, then he never truly loved you. For the men, a lady that truly loves you and wishes to be your wife should be able to accept your proposal. But if she doesn't, then she never truly loved you, and has no intention of spending the rest of her life being you wife. Therefore, you should leave her, and let her go.

All the aforesaid and above listed facts cannot be achieved by power or might, but by the help of God, and the only way we can get the help of God is by accepting Jesus as our Lord and personal savior. When you accept Jesus as your Lord and personal savior, then God will guide you to know who your right partner is.

So, say after me;  Lord Jesus, I'm a sinner, forgive my sin. Cleanse me now with your precious blood. Come into my heart. I accept you now as my Lord and personal saviour. Write my name in the book of life. I am born again. Old things are passed away, behold, all things have become new in Jesus name.

Amen!

I see God help you achieve all your desires in life, and guide you to the right partner in Jesus name.

God bless you

Sandra Ikiriko