HOW THE CHILDREN OF GOD OUGHT TO DATE (Part 1)
1. We are
expected not to have sex before marriage because our body is the temple of the Lord. Now not every person can endure a no-sex relationship, but this is what is expected of us as children of God.
2. We are
advised not to visit our partner alone.
If you must visit, it should be done in the presence of a third party. This is
just to avoid leaving you two alone due to the fact that some people cannot
control their urges. But if you think you can both control your feelings for
each other, then you can visit each other, but please visiting should be done
during the day not at night.
3. We're
expected not to stay in a dark/quiet place alone. This is because when two people who are in love
are left alone in a dark/quiet place, their emotions tend to rise, and they
might start touching each other, and that can lead to them defiling their body.
Hebrews 13:4a
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed
undefiled:
4. It is also expected of us not to pass
nights together. As children of God, we are advised not to pass nights
together in order to avoid sin. Some people can control their emotions when
they are awake, but not when they are very tired and sleeping.
5. The only acceptable place for you to stay
with your partner is in a public place, so as not to create room for any
romance that might lead to sex. Lol! (I love this one)
6. This is for the ladies, we are not expected to go
to the house of our partner to cook or wash cloths. There is no need
giving him the benefit of a husband when he is not yet a husband, also going to
cook or wash your spouse’s cloths won't make him love you more, and not going
to cook or wash his cloths won't make him leave you either if he truly loves
you and wishes to make you his wife.
7. Functions: The both parties can always attend functions
together as they please, but should be decently dressed as representatives of
Christ here on earth.
8. Engagement ring: Some ladies wear their
spouse’s engagement ring for five (5) years or more. It is not bad to wear an
engagement ring, but it is advised that you wear it when it’s close to your
wedding. The reason is simple; some men quickly get their finance engaged
simply because they don't want to lose her to another man, and then force her
to always wear their engagement ring when they know they are not yet ready to get
married to her any time soon, and then the lady continues to wear the
engagement ring for years, and in the end, the man may not marry her. Therefore,
leaving her to suffer shame and humiliation from her friends for having chased other men away with the engagement ring. As a result, ladies have been advised to
wear their engagement ring when it is close to their wedding, so if the brother
decides to change his mind on marrying the sister, the sister will have nothing
to lose since she wasn't wearing the engagement ring before then or hasn't put
it on for long.
This is so
because most times, it is the woman who wears the engagement ring, the man
doesn't, and most times too other ladies who sees the man may assume he's not
in a relationship due to the fact that even when he is engaged, he doesn't wear a
ring to show that he’s engaged unlike the woman. So, when there is a breakup between them, the lady suffers it the most. Hence, his ring should be worn
only when it is close to their wedding so should he change his mind before time, the lady will have nothing to lose.
NB:
But the lady can wear the ring if they're both going out together to show that
she's engaged to him.
9. Traditional
marriage: Some people
believe once the man they are
10. When
engaged: When you're both engaged, you should let your Pastor know about
it, he then can advise you on the next step to take to making your dream a
reality.
11. Pray
together: I strongly believe that couples who pray together stay together.
Concerning praying together, most people prefer to pray together via a
telephone call than holding hands to pray together in a place, so they won't
get turned on by merely holding hands to pray with their partner. I would
suggest that prayers should be done via a telephone call to avoid getting
turned on, and then start binding your emotions.
12. Marriage
List: After you're engaged, and you're now preparing for your marriage,
kindly note that as children of God, we do not serve alcohol. In the marriage
list, you're not allowed to give alcohol. Most times the bride’s family might
put pressure on the groom to give alcohol, but please inform them that as
believers we don't serve alcohol, and of course they want to see their
daughter get married. Hence, they will accept your nonalcoholic wines.
13. Tradition
marriage: Due to distance of some bride’s country home, some grooms prefer
to be at the girl's place where the engagement (Traditional marriage) will be
done a day before that day. But please men, if you want to be respected by your
in-laws; don't pass the night in their house irrespective of how big the house
is. Look for an affordable hotel accommodation close by, or make an arrangement
to sleep in a friend's place around there, but please your in-laws are your
in-laws, and I'm sure you don't want to give them a bad impression of yourself
before marriage.
The list is quite long, and all cannot be listed here. Therefore, kindly look forward to HOW THE CHILDREN OF GOD OUGHT TO DATE (Part 2)
Now nothing in this life is achievable without the help of God. So, If you're reading this but you've not given your life to Christ, kindly say after me - Lord Jesus, I'm a sinner, forgive my sin. Cleanse me now with your precious blood. Come into my heart. I accept you now as my Lord and personal saviour. Write my name in the book of life. I am born again. Old things are passed away, behold, all things have become new in Jesus name.
Amen!
God bless you
Sandra Ikiriko
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