HOW TO BE A PERSON OF HONOUR & DIGNITY

What does it mean to be a person of honour and dignity? It means to keep your head straight, and your shoulders high.

Be the best God has made you be.

Deuteronomy 28:13

The LORD will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.

But what makes one be the tail if God has made you be the head? It is simply by entangling yourself in the wrong things which usually bring other people down. As a single person, be a person of honour and dignity wherever you find yourself. Do not do things which will bring the name of the Lord or your family to shame.

Be respectable, and distinct. Be the best God wants you to be, be the desire of every man/woman out there looking for a life partner. Don’t live carelessly believing no one is watching. Most times people we do not know, take notice of us.

Avoid doing things which may drag your name to mud.

In your office, do not mingle in things which may tarnish your reputation. At school avoid dating your lecturers. If you keep dating old men who are old enough to be your father, by the time you get to half their age, you will be looking like their grandmother.

Keep yourself for the right person. Don’t give yourself so cheaply to undeserving people.

Now someone might be asking how can I be a person of honour and dignity, and someone else might be saying I have missed it before, but how can I get back my dignity and honour? The answer is the same for the two categories of people. Please see below how you can maintain your honour and dignity and how you can gain back yours if you had lost it.

·       Avoid office romance

As a young person avoid having an affair with a fellow colleague. Some organizations do allow dating between co-workers, and some don’t. But irrespective of what the policies of your firm are, it is not right to date a fellow worker. The reason is quite simple; when you’re having an affair with a colleague, from the beginning it will look all rosy, but when there is a breakup you can’t stand it because you will keep seeing the person at work every day. Some cannot endure the pains of seeing their ex every day. Hence, they may wish to resign. That aside, when you’re dating a colleague, you tend to be a bit casual most especially if the person you’re dating is your supervisor or boss. You begin to be unserious and more relax because you’re dating your supervisor or boss, and then the job begins to suffer the effect of your office romance. Please don’t go and spoil someone else’s business with your emotions. Control your emotion and date someone outside your place of work. That way you will have your respect at your place of work, but if your office permits it, don’t go jumping from one person to another; be discreet, responsible and do it quietly. Remember if he/she truly loves you, then you should both be thinking of settling down. But avoid jumping from one person to another. And if there happens to be a breakup, I would suggest that you don’t date another staff to avoid going around the staff members. But try to introduce a “no sex” relationship to save your name from shame. God bless you.  

·       Avoid  Pilfer

Taking what doesn’t belong to you won’t make you rich.

To be a person of honour and dignity, you must not pilfer. Avoid picking things which don’t belong to you, it won’t make you rich; it will only pay your flight ticket to hell. How would you feel if you’re caught? Stop taking what doesn’t belong to you. It’s unbelievable how some people pilfer in their office and school. It’s not a talent to pilfer; it’s a sin before God. Remember God is no respecter of persons; the day you will be caught you won’t be able to stand the shame. Hence, live clean. Be content with what you have. If you need someone’s item be free to ask, you might be allowed to use it, and you won’t have to pilfer. Stealing is not a talent; it’s a crime capable of bringing shame to the person who commits it. You can live clean and advice your friends to live clean too and God shall bless you. 

·       Avoid Indecent dressing

You are told you’re the most beautiful person doesn’t mean you should strip naked. The truth is if you strip naked people would watch, and after that lose interest. If you think you’re cute, please just remember that you’re not the only cute person alive. Hence, learn to dress decently when going out.

·       Maintain Social Graces and Etiquette

Social graces are manners which are used to interact politely with people in the society. Showing politeness in one's attitude and behaviour towards others doesn’t kill. Hence, learn to treat people with courtesy and good humour.

Learn to be polite, courteous, well mannered, respectful, and considerate when dealing with other people. That way you will be treated with respect and honour.

·       Avoid having an affair with a married Person.

What I usually tell young people concerning this is; when he/she was single he/she didn’t see you to go out with you, it’s after they got married that they now saw you, right? Ladies, please listen - stop having an affair with married men, if he truly loved you, why didn’t he marry you? He left you to marry his darling wife, now he wants to make you sin against God. Run for your dear life. One of the things that kill faster is adultery. Avoid it. There are lots of single people out there looking for someone to go out with them; it mustn’t be someone’s husband or wife. Please, there's nothing dignifying in adultery. God hates it. The bible says in

Mark 10:9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.

Romans 7:2a For the woman which has an husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives.

When you’re dating someone’s spouse you’re trying to start a fight with the Almighty God, and can you survive it? That is why young people die like chicken. Go look for yours and leave someone else own alone. It is not dignifying to commit adultery.

The bible says and Joseph flee from Potiphar’s wife

Genesis 39

Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, 7 and after a while his master’s wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Come to bed with me!”

8 But he refused. “With me in charge,” he told her, “my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care. 9 No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?” 10 And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her.

Be like Joseph and abstain from going to bed with someone’s husband or wife. It is not dignifying at all. It’s not.

·       Make your own money

The reason some young people go after married men/woman or pilfer - is as a result of poverty. God says He will bless the works of your hands. If you wish to be a person to be respected, you mustn’t depend on married men/woman to give you money or pilfer. Work hard to earn your own living. God will bless your little effort and you shall gain speed and become that great man/woman you desire to be.

·       Be discipline

Be disciplined, there is no great person on earth who is not disciplined. You have to advice yourself. It’s not every time you have to follow your friends to a club and spend the little money you have. As a young lady, it’s not every man that comes your way you should say yes to. Have a standard, be discipline and people shall treat you with respect.

Nothing in this life is achievable without the help of God. If you wish to achieve your heart desires, and become great, you need the help of God, and to those who come to God, He shall not cast away.

Just say after me

Lord Jesus, I'm a sinner, forgive my sin. Cleanse me now with your precious blood. Come into my heart. I accept you now as my Lord and personal saviour. Write my name in the book of life. I am born again. Old things are passed away, behold, all things have become new in Jesus name.

Amen!

May God bless and help you achieve your dreams –amen.

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God bless you

Sandra Ikiriko