NOT YOUR TRADITION

women never propose to men

   I think it does not matter how wealthy you are or how well educated you are, when a man comes to you for a relationship, even if your love for him exceeds his for you, it is not in your place to propose to the man. It is good to fall in love, and to be in love, but do not allow your feelings for that person make you do things which are not right for you to do.

We all know that it is in the place of the man to propose to the woman. Now, civilization has not changed that, also in the bible it has not change and will not change. The truth remains that it is in the place of the man to propose to a lady he wishes to marry. Hence, ladies never for any reason propose to men.

It is not scriptural for a woman to propose to a man. The word of God says in

 

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.

 

The scripture above says “he who finds” and not “she” who finds.

It breaks the heart of God when a woman does that because such an attitude is against the word of God, and anything we humans do which is not in line with God’s word usually breaks God’s heart.

 

It does not matter how much you think you’re in love, please never be the one to propose to the man.  If he loves you, and wants you, he would come to you and with time would propose to you. By nature the way God created the man, he goes for whatever he desires – nothing stopping him. The man may be a shy person, but if he wants you, he would certainly look for a way to communicate that to you. But if you go and propose to him simply because you’re deeply in love with him, it may make him not to have respect for you. Not only will he not have respect for you, but may also see you as been desperate.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Control your feelings and be good. I’m sure things will work out smoothly.

There are several ways you can make the man understand that you do wish to spend the rest of your days with him, without you saying so openly.

When you’re nice to a gentle man, he would have no option but to start thinking of coming close to you.

 

And when he comes to you, there is no point to start chasing after him. Just be calm. If he is really interested in you, he would ask the big question (“Will you marry me?”)

But if he is not showing any interest in you there is no point forcing yourself on him. If he has interest in you, he would come to you. Do not say “it doesn’t matter whether or not I force myself on him”. Please think about how he would see it. Beside why stress yourself over one person when there are over a thousand young men who are praying to meet someone like you.