MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE

 

v When you’re in a relationship, it is advise that you should be honest, but when it comes to your past, be careful with what you say. If you wish to talk about your past relationship its fine, but be careful with what you say. For example if you’re a lady, telling your partner the number of times you have had sex is not necessary, such an information will make your partner jealous and may spoil his day.

 

v If your ex-girlfriend was a great cook that is fine, but please do not compare her meal with that of your spouse.

Do to others what you would have them do to you.

 

v We all have past, and we want to sometime forget all about our past, but in some cases it is almost impossible. I believe it does not matter what your ex did to you, it is not right to tell your partner about your ex’s weaknesses. Really, no one is perfect. So, how would you feel if you heard that your ex told someone all the crazy things you did to him/her. If your partner wish to know a little about why you broke up with your ex, I think it is good to tell him/her, but do not entirely tarnish the image of your ex because he/she is now an ex to you. Should your partner ask why you broke up with your ex; I think it is better to say you guys weren’t compatible rather than tell him/her all the mistakes of your ex. The reason your ex is called an ex is because he/she is now a past tense. So, learn to forget everything about that person including their mistakes.

 

 

v Another mistake people make is they try to compare their ex with their spouse. I think it does not matter how good you think your ex was an ex is an ex. If your ex was so good, then why did you break up with him/her? Never expect your partner to treat you like your ex, touch you like your ex touches you or kiss you just like your ex. The reason is that person is not your ex, and that is why you choose to date him/her. And so, do not compare your spouse with an ex, and never expect your partner to treat you like your ex. I believe every individual is unique in their own way. So, allow people to prove to you who they are rather than try to force them to be like your ex.

 

v Old Pictures of an ex – Some time when people break up from a relationship, they tend to keep items belonging to their ex and intend to place unnecessary values on such items. Therefore making their partner feel uncomfortable. Some people after their partner breaks up with them, they will still leave their pictures everywhere in their house forgetting it would make their spouse feel uncomfortable.  

 

v Talking too much about other admirers. It is nice to have too many admirers, but it is not nice when you start boasting about it in the presence of your spouse.  Some men when they have too many girls admiring them, they will start boasting about it in the presence of their spouse. This would make their spouse very jealous and uncomfortable, and in a short period they would start having issues. And he may not know what the matter is. But the truth is, the problem emanated from the man’s constant boasting of all his secret admirers.  We all have admirers. So, please mind how you talk about yours so you don’t hurt your sweet partner.

 

v Going out on a date with an ex while you’re in a relationship. I think it is completely unacceptable to go out on a date with an ex while you’re in a relationship. That would be unkind to your partner. If your ex was so good why did you break up with him/her? If he/she needed you so much why did he/she leave you for another? And why is he/she trying to come back when you’re in a relationship? Whether or not your partner complains about it, such an attitude is not good since it does not display maturity.

 

I believe a word is enough for the wise, and I know you are wise. So, do the right thing so as to enjoy ceaseless peace and joy in your relationship/marriage.

Thank you – SANDRA IKIRIKO